Don't Let Your Boyfriend Block You From Finding Your Husband

So I'm guessing you probably clicked on this post because of the title. You secretly thought to yourself "Hmm...this is gonna be a good one". After a lot of back and forth I felt like this might actually be something people needed to hear. Even me. So what exactly does this mean? How exactly do you go about maintaining this attitude? Well I'll try to break it down the best way I know how.

Recently I got a notification from an app on my phone called "Sprinkle of Jesus". The notification said "Don't let your boyfriend block you from finding your husband". So for someone who was in the middle of going through a break-up I was like "Oh wow, God is that you?". (lol) The timing of the notification just seemed too perfect, and it really spoke to me because it actually made sense in more ways than one.

As a young female, although I'm not proud to admit, I've been through the heartbreak, the lies, the cheating, the games, etc. I don't doubt that most, if not all girls can relate. Although the feelings and emotions that come with it sucks, the lessons and growth that stem from them are forever priceless. So how does it typically start? You meet someone who is pretty damn awesome at first, but then they kind of just stop doing all the things they used to do to get you. The admiration, the fun, the courtship, the love, the bond, all becomes too "safe". Soon enough you realize you're almost settling for whatever you get. You settle because you don't want to be alone, you don't want to start all over with someone new, and quite frankly, you've already convinced yourself that this may be the relationship you rightfully deserve. But what if the relationship you rightfully deserve is standing in the way of your boyfriend?

The issue with settling as a woman is, we overlook a mans flaws because we constantly make excuses for the behavior. We make excuses for the cheating, we make excuses for the inconsistent communication, & we make excuses for the same things he seems to keep apologizing for. I hear too many people say that males typically mature slower than females do which is a reason to excuse a lot of the things they do. But the real question is, do woman really mature faster, or do we just excuse a mans immaturity longer? How are woman so quick to overlook a guys flaws, yet a man would be quick to find all the faults in you? You deserve someone who will fight for you, someone who is consistent, honest, and someone who is emotionally, and mentally stable. Life is too short to be waiting for ANYONE to act right. (And yes, that means your boyfriend lol) Remember sis, being selfish with your time is not a bad thing.

Woman are their own worst enemy. We convince ourselves of not being able to receive the certain love we know we deserve because of the negative notion that it's just not out there. We block our own blessings with our self-esteem, past heartbreak, and the wall that should have been broken down two relationships ago. Females are becoming too complacent with mediocre men. I'm not a relationship coach but sometimes the issue is, YOUR ceiling is THEIR floor. Sis, one who sets their standards high, will never have to settle for less. A man is to create heaven for a woman because angels don't live in hell. (OKUURRRR!)

The whole idea behind "Don't let your boyfriend block you from finding your husband" is your time is too valuable to be sitting in temporary situations with temporary people. At this point of your life, if you aren't dating to marry then don't date. If however, you do decide to seriously date someone, make sure he pours everything into you until the cup runneth over. The most attractive thing any male can provide is effort. Don't ever settle for half ass ANYTHING because you "love" him.. There will always be a distinct difference between a guy that wants you, and a guy that will do anything to keep you. Allow yourself to really know the difference, then act accordingly.

The most vital relationship anyone can ever have is with themselves. Know your value and don’t acknowledge being treated in a way less than you deserve. You have the right to be dealt with the manner in which you treat others. The minute you negotiate your self worth and settle for less, you say to the universe that you don’t deserve any better. Know your worth then add tax. Remember sis, Don't let your boyfriend block you from finding your husband. PERIOD! *city girl voice*

Niyah