20's are probably the most difficult and most exciting years of your life. It's the perfect time to do a lot of self discovering, and acknowledge and celebrate every single moment. It's the age where you're smart enough to know better, but still too young to care. So why is it that there's this perception that being selfish is actually a bad thing? If you don't put yourself first, then who will?
When people hear the word "selfish" they automatically think of a person who lacks consideration for others. However, what people fail to admit is being selfish isn't always a bad thing when it's for the right reasons.
"You can't be faulted for being selfish if you're going to get better because of it". Jerry Lewis
Being relatively new in your twenties, you start to come to the realization that putting yourself first isn''t something you should be faulted for. Currently this is a point in life for not only you, but people just like yourself who are encountering so many changes, feelings, experiences, and growth. Your time is more valuable now than it ever has been. Being selective about the decisions you make, the friends you keep, the people you date, and the emotions you have are completely OK things to be selfish about!
The thing is, being selfish doesn't mean you don't care, but instead it means you care to fill yourself up with everything, and try everything it is YOU want to do without feeling bad about it! The idea behind being selfish is to figure out your wants, needs, and what you like/don't like. You'll be extremely surprised about how much you'll not only learn, but discover about yourself when you actually take the time to worry about you.
If you're anything like me, you've spent majority of your time investing love into those around you and not allowing time to actually invest in yourself, enjoy yourself, and completely just BE YOURSELF. As of recently I've been learning that if it doesn't contribute to my happiness, my peace, and my future, then there's no need to consider anyone else's feeling about it beside my own.
There is nobody out there that knows what's better for you than you. This is the time to branch out, network, face your fears, do the ABSOLUTE most, figure out what makes you happy, and quite frankly just go for it! Learning to be your unapologetic self is something that I think everyone should experience. Get out your comfort zone and put yourself out there. If there's something you always wanted to do but have been putting it on hold, do it. The saddest thing any person could do is look back on life wishing they took that chance, or made that big step.
The thing about your twenties is "Damn if you do, damn if you don't". People are going to have commentary about the way you should live your life regardless of what you do, but you are your own person. During this time, your life is just getting started. Being selfish really allows you the time and patience to really figure out exactly who you are. Whatever selfish may mean to you go ahead and just go with it. The vision becomes more clear once you have a solid understanding of your continued growth and power. Stay modest and humble, but most importantly stay.................S E L F I S H.
Niyah
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